Relationships with other souls on this planet are designed to ultimately help us learn about ourselves and to grow. The state of your relationships is a direct reflection of how you are making your way in the world, and the balancing act of reciprocation provides a relationship with the energy to move forward. The relationship grows and you grow.
It’s a beautiful thing.
However, nothing can suck the life force out of another person – or a room – like someone who’s chronically self-absorbed.
Now let’s not confuse self-absorption with self-containment or self-sufficiency. It’s totally cool to be able to stand on your own two feet. You should be proud of the ability to take care of yourself. Standing in your power allows you to make choices that are in your best interest rather than putting your needs on the back burner to please another person.
Self-absorption is talking to a stranger at a party for three hours and never asking them anything beyond their name. It’s telling your friend all your problems on a daily basis and never asking how they are. It’s not caring about other people’s interests because they couldn’t possibly be as interesting as yours. Self-absorption is totally obnoxious and we’re all guilty of it. And what many of us don’t realize is this behavior also messes with the law of attraction big time.
Self-absorption is the absence of reciprocity. Reciprocity, or energy exchange between two people, keeps the balance. It puts the “relate” in relationship. When you exchange with another you are opening yourself up to the energy of recriprocity. You are giving and you are receiving.
It’s energy that manifests our desires into reality. If you keep your energy held tightly to you, it can’t emanate out. Think butterfly affect: If you’re not letting the energy touch others, it won’t go on touching others so on and so on.
If you are just giving and not taking any information or energy back, you may think you’re getting all of the attention (or you may not be thinking at all), but what you’re really doing is blocking energy from coming back to you. By not reciprocating, you’re blocking this magnificent energy created between two people that can propel you to a higher level of openness and understanding.
Life is not a series of competitions disguised as social events. Something called you to where you are. The person sitting next to you is no accident. The next time you find yourself in the company of a stranger – or even an aquaintance – try learning something new about them. I guarantee there’s a message in that meeting. We are all connected and on this planet at this particular time in history to help each other grow and evolve. When you give to others – even energy in the form of interest – you give to yourself.
